Parents and the civil society
Children are the future of our nation and this expectation has been the sole motivational factor since ages. We have been shouldering them to build a healthy nation wherein they can shape their personality and live a meaningful life. But considering the deteriorating social scenario of our society and the changing behavioural traits in youths I can see our society dyeing in spite its immortal age. I reiterate what I had mentioned in my previous write up that what we lack in our endeavour to combat this issue is vigilance and intervention. It is seen that we as a civil society and parents have failed to be vigilant. What is being vigilant here is to know what our children are doing. Where are they going and with whom are they spending their leisure time. As parents we must know our child and their changing behaviour. It’s quite obvious we might say that we all don’t have time earning our living but how can we let go our children’s out of hand and see them die while they live. It’s worrisome to see that our civil society is proving themselves blind not see things so visible. What do I mean by intervention?? I mean we must speak up and say no even if it is not bothering you. The concept of collective responsibility has lost its essence.
Know your Child
Time has changed and so has our social and economic parameters. Now all we want is what Bentham has said “greatest happiness of greatest number”. With the increase in social and economic liabilities the responsibility of the children are increasing simultaneously. The parents and the civil society axiomatically have set high goals for these Children’s. The burden of achieving the highly set goal by their parents and the society has insulated in them mental stress and a fear psychosis of failing. Not only that low self esteem and emotional imbalances are major factors reported in school interrogation while counselling the substance users. How vigilant are we?? Do we intervene???
Surprisingly, there are case studies in school’s wherein issue like relationships amongst the adolescent( may be adolescent age group has to studied as there are case wherein smaller age group children’s are involved in substance abuse also due to relationship problems) has compelled students into substance abuse and suicide.
There are cases in schools where a child has confessed her reasons for substance abuse. As she confesses” I fell in love when I was in class VIII. I loved him a lot and we wanted to get married. One day my parents came to know about our relationship and also that I was in love with a boy who happened to be a schedule caste. We were told to separate but we could not. It so happened that he committed suicide and me I tried the same. With this pain I started getting involved in substance abuse. I get those suicidal tendencies every time.” It’s sad to know that even her parents have discarded her and fortunately she is now rehabilitated. There may be many such stories and many more struggling to balance their emotions hiding their vulnerability.
Are we realizing that issues like relationship and emotional conflict management are important as the part of learning outcomes???It’s high time talk to them; know their emotions before it’s too late. It is to be noted that relationship and substance is just one factor. Another important factor that has been a major reason behind substance abuse is family discord or family distortion. What do in mean by family discord is the unhealthy relationship between the mother and the father in which the child is not able to manage him or herself. The child is so frustrated and traumatic that the child becomes vulnerable to substance abuse. Now what do I mean by family distortion is that the child is either living with a step mother or step father or only with a mother or a father. We might call this a common culture these days but in between we are losing a child. We are losing the future of the child. We are losing their right to live a happy and a meaningful life.
Are we responsible parents??? Are we responsible civil society??? Is every school and every teacher taking up responsibility?? It’s high time we get our head over heels and get ourselves on our toes if we want to see every flower that we have sown blossoms and spread its fragrance.
Perspective on solutions
We live in a beautiful state with a very manageable population to administer. No problem is a problem unless ignored and overlooked. Having said so it is also visible that all the stake holders are exhibiting and expediting their plans and effort to combat this drug menace in the state. But the only concern is are we receiving the result as expected or as the way we are fetching for it. Is it not wise to come up with a case study of model that is being followed in other states and countries and see the feasibility of it being implemented in our state. One such model if we can look upon is the model that is being practiced in Iceland. Iceland is a small country with a population of 3.38 (2017) .If we see the history of Iceland, this country had topped the highest drinking and drugs users kid in Europe. It is said that every streets in this country was filled with drug addicts and people feared coming out on the streets at night. But as Gudberg Jonsson a local psychologist and Harvey Milkman psychology professor from USA came out with a model called “self discovery” which transformed it’s youth into sportsperson(the world cup performance is evident) and professionals who’s contribution has changed the image of Iceland as a country with cleanest living youths.
My first write up on drug abuse titled-“drug abuse and learning outcomes- a definite link” was just a concern to express my sincere perspective over the menace of substance abuse that has not only penetrated our society but leading our society towards irreparable mess. I know less about the technicalities of its biological damage but I am worried over the social, economical, emotional causes and consequences the society is facing. Largely, the extent to which substance abuse has affected the youth especially the school going children’s is alarming and needs an imperative action plan to combat this life taking evil.
By Bishal darnal
About the Author: Bishal Darnal is a post graduate teacher of Political Science and a coordinator of SAATHI. He can be contacted at email@example.com